Everyone who got married would dream to live happily ever after together. But let’s face the reality that a high percentage of marriage ends up in divorce. Getting a divorce is probably the most difficult situation you have to endure in your entire life. It’ll be even more burdensome if you have children together.
First, there will be arguments on who will get custody of the children. By law there’s no hard and fast rule on which parent gets it. If the children are still young, then under normal circumstances the rights are understandably given to the mother, but there’s no visitation restriction to the father though. If the children are older, then they would have a say.
Relocation would potentially be the hardiest situation for both parents as well as the children themselves.
There are many reasons why each parent wants to relocate after the divorce. They may have to downgrade due to lesser affordability. Or they are having a fresh start with a new marriage.
By law you can always relocate anywhere in the UK, or even outside the country. But you must have permission from your ex, if you have joint custody over the children. If you’re unable to get consent, then you can apply for a Specific Issue Order to allow you to do so. Off-course you’d need to justify the reason for such relocation. It should be for the best interests of the children. While the marriage and divorce is about you and your life, but the custody is about your kids’ wellbeing and future upbringing.
Before applying to the courts for relocation, it is best to get a mediator to resolve possible dispute first. In the mediation process you would have to sit down with the mediator and try to achieve an agreement. Upon a court hearing, they will ensure the relocation is not a tactic to prevent visitations from the other parent. That’s why you need to justify every reason why there’s a need to relocate for the sake of the children, in order to obtain the court’s accommodation.
One of the most important consideration in relocating is to make it easy for the children. How they commute to school and back, where they play and how and when to shift parents. All need to be very realistic and doable, without putting too much emotions in your decisions, with the guidance of family law solicitors Manchester experts helpful in this process.
Also, more importantly you must consider how to communicate effectively. These days it’s easiest to do that since you have cell phones with communication apps everywhere. You can also arrange schedules with Google Calendar for example. But on top of these online gadgets, still there’s no substitute to physical face-to-face contacts. A hug would have far more psychological impact on the parent and child.
In conclusion, divorce is not an end to life. What parents can still do is to salvage the future upbringings of the children. Do follow these relocating rules to get the best solution for the sake of the children.